This Is Not Perfect, Check It Out

I’ve struggled to get traction on my dream. That’s because I really don’t know what my dream is. I know what it feels like. But I can’t really identify the key ends of what the dream is.

Balcony in Kihei, Maui

From the balcony of our vacation condo in Kihei, Maui.

You see, I picture myself writing this blog while sitting on a balcony with clear blue water as far as I can see. Sipping coffee while enjoying the crisp, morning breeze. Thinking about the great things I’ve learned, and finding something valuable in it to share with you.

But the dream is not the tropical locale. It’s not the escape from a 9-to-5 job. It’s not even the blog I’m writing.

Those are trimmings—and I certainly hope they come with the dream—but they aren’t the dream.

The dream is really about finding something worth saying. It’s about connecting. It’s about achieving that magic intersection between passion and value, between creativity and service.

But how do I find that thing? How do I find what I love to create that you want?

That’s the million dollar question, isn’t it? The question that has led some to paradise and driven many to madness.

I’ve been on a quest to answer this question for many years.

But I’ve tried to construct a perfect box. I’ve tried to come up with some clear, catchy theme that fits some perfect niche.

I’ve tried to outsmart ages of wisdom which say that you can’t beat experience. I’ve tried to beat it with countless hours thinking and contriving—but not pulling the trigger. I’ve fooled myself into thinking that any mental effort, however ineffective, is productive.

And while I’ve sat idle, scheming, trying to plot the perfect course, time has impatiently continued on.

I admit defeat in this course of my journey. I’ve been defeated by the idea that I could wait for the perfect song to play before I ask you to dance.

Malcolm X once said:

There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.”

So what lesson have I learned?

I don’t have the answer. I’m not sure what I can offer that will add value to your life. But I will no longer wait for the perfect setup.

Would you like to dance?